Your relationship is so important. But it’s also something that’s easy to put on the back burner. There’s always something that’s more pressing in the moment that makes it easy to ignore your relationship problems right now.
Have you ever said anything like…
“We can work on these problems we’re having after baseball season is over.”
“We can talk about that after Christmas.”
“Once school is out, we’ll have more time to figure this out.”
or something similar?
If your relationship is causing you stress, you’re not the only one. It’s so much easier to coast through life, to make it through another day, rather than to stop and address the relationship problems.
One extremely common area where people in relationships experience stress is money. Arguments over how you’re making, spending, and saving are very typical in relationships. However, money isn’t the only issue.
No matter what the issue is, it’s likely that your relationship problems are having a negative impact on your children. Whether or not they say it, children often recognize when they’re parents are upset with each other, no matter how much you might try to hide your true feelings. When children sense that their parents are upset with each other, it creates confusion and stress that they’re not prepared to handle.
For the health of your family, it’s important that you deal with your relationship problems before they grow any worse.
Acknowledge That There Are Relationship Problem
The first step to fixing a problem is recognizing that it exists. Have a conversation with your partner. Tell them what you’ve been feeling, Usually, they will share that they’ve been feeling similarly.
For example, you might share that you feel like you’re expected to do all the cooking and cleaning, and the fact that your partner doesn’t contribute as much to the household upkeep is unfair. Your partner might feel guilty for not contributing more, or might explain that they feel like they’re contributing too much in other areas, such as providing childcare or income.
Talk it out. Explain what’s bothering each of you and try to get to the root of your relationship stress.
After you’ve determined what the problem is, you need to start thinking of solutions. This could involve setting a schedule for doing the dishes, or it could mean one partner takes the children out of the house for a set time so the other partner can have some much-needed alone time.
The solution is going to depend on what relationship problems you’re having. Be flexible and open-minded. Remember, nothing is going to make everything better right away. The key to a successful relationship is open, honest communication, and hard work.
Seek Help If You Need It
Sometimes, even after you’ve acknowledged the problem and brainstormed solutions, you still feel that relationship stress. At this point, it might be time to seek relationship advice from a professional.
You can first explore some of the information the internet has to offer, whether that’s on YouTube or in blogs. Make sure that you’re reading or watching this together. If only one person is doing it, that’s not enough.
If you can’t get the help you need from online resources, it might be time to consult a couples’ therapist. Look up therapists in your area together and decide who would be the best match. Schedule an appointment and see how it goes. Be open to changing therapists if the first one doesn’t work out.
Be Consistent and Authentic
No matter what your relationship problem is, when it comes to finding a solution, you need to be consistent and authentic. If something isn’t working for you, don’t lie about it just because it seems to be working for them. You might be tempted to fake it to keep things calm, but that’s just going to lead to more resentment. Tell your partner that you want to try a new approach.
Consistency is also extremely important. You can’t try a solution for a month and then give up. If it stops working, re-evaluate your approach and try something new. Keep having open and honest conversations with your partner as you attempt to fix your relationship problems.
Keep Your Family Healthy
Relationship problems can cause stress for children in addition to the problems they’re already causing you. It’s you and your partner’s responsibility to work it out and find a solution. Keep your family healthy by making sure you understand the relationship problems you’re having and doing your best to solve them. Having those hard conversations isn’t fun, but in the long run, it’s worth it!
Senior Author & Chief Editor
Based in Tempe, AZ
I started writing in college and am thankful to have turned it into a growing career. I love to create and share content that hits home for me, and hopefully helps others at home. I’m the proud mom of 2 beautiful boys, and a gorgeous baby girl.
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